Six Marketing Lessons Applied To Dating
Friday, July 31st, 2009
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In the Spring of 2008, I officially embarked on two journeys: the first an internship in Marketing, the second a quest to go on thirty dates in twenty weeks (and ended at 32 in 19 weeks). From this, I realized how similar dating and marketing can be:
- In the beginning, quantity of leads is important. Getting a number feels good, it is self affirming, and it keeps you busy. Getting twenty numbers feels even better.
- With a sufficient quantity of leads, lead scoring is critical. While getting a lot of leads feels great, eventually you will have more than you can handle; at this point, you need to find a way to prioritize leads. Rating date prospects on a scale of 1 to 10 is obvious, but this score is based on the desirability of the lead, not the chances of success; a better approach sets minimum qualifications while considering the likelihood of success.
- Learn from your mistakes. Within the first few weeks, I began to keep a spreadsheet to track variables (location, source, etc.) From this, I became aware of causes of failure, and considered alternatives to test.
- Social validation is critical. Of all of the variables present, the greatest predictor of dating success was whether or not a lead was referred by a mutual acquaintance; in fact, the odds of success tripled given this source. The people we associate with will have more impact on our successes than anything else we do. Choose your friends wisely.
- Success breeds success (and it often comes after a Dip). When I first started, I met with a lot of failure ( I am a classically awkward closer.) Looking back, it is easy to see where I took off: after a particularly bad week of five awful dates, I stood at 15, and I decided I needed to stop; it was no longer fun, and I felt no better off than I had been before. But then, I found a great prospect, and 15 lessons in failure become the pillars of success.
- Confidence is key. Most people are deficient in self confidence, so sharing yours can be mutually valuable. For a long time, I refused to offer confidence to others; when a woman would ask me the typical question “Do I look fat in this dress” I would tell her my true opinion and she knew that. I only recently realized that confidence, like love, is a gift that is more valuable when shared. Few people want your true opinion: most want, more than anything else, a loan of confidence to help them execute on their plan, no matter how ill fated.
Dear Readers: Have you found any other similarities between dating and marketing?
