On Freedom and Relationships

by Steven on November 24, 2015

Ten missed calls in two minutes. Text: “We need to talk Steven.  Don’t leave yet.” I was at the airport, about to board a plane for a new city.  The messages came from a woman who I had dated but not actually slept with, my chances dimmed when she shared that she was married. Now she was behaving […]

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You are not the average of the five people you spend the most time with. A personal trainer who spends time with five fat clients doesn’t become fat. Einstein at a mental institution doesn’t become deranged. Mother Theresa on Alcatraz doesn’t become a serial killer. The five people you spend the most time with are […]

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Bidsketch Review

December 10, 2013

Recently I started using Bidsketch for proposals, replacing a workflow involving Word Docs and headaches. Normally I trial multiple products aimed at the same problem to see what fits best.  Using Bidsketch, however, has been such a positive experience that I can’t imagine a better product. If you have a small business, here are four […]

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Why It Is Impossible For (Most) Entrepreneurs To Have Girlfriends

June 29, 2013

I came across this ridiculous article “Why is it impossible for Entrepreneurs to have Girlfriends” spreading a pro-masculine drivel that rivals some of the worst feminist content online.  In it, the author references Bill Gates and Jay-Z as  the best examples of sacrificing love for entrepreneurship.  Its another example of a great headline, bad content; and […]

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My Secret Efficiency Hack

March 10, 2013

…is to not be efficient at all. I suggest “efficiency is the enemy of effectiveness.” — In a recent mastermind, the conversation turned into a sharing of keyboard shortcuts in Excel and Gmail.  This seems harmless: improving your ability to use these tools helps you get more out of them and free up time. If […]

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Jailbreaking the Middle Class and Designing Struggle

February 11, 2013

In 2009 I moved from San Jose, California to  San Diego, California.  I thought location everything, and San Diego had it all: beautiful beaches, some city life, and a university culture with 24 hour coffeeshops. The reality was I never found myself comfortable there: the pace was slower than I wanted, I struggled to find […]

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How to succeed in life

January 7, 2013

What is the one thing you need to succeed in life?  Unless you define success as blissful ignorant middle class suburbia, there is one mindset you must have: Life is a game. This statement goes deep.  Strap in. 1. Life is a game, and your pursuit of success is a game.  Read “Finite and Infinite Games” […]

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Running away and reframing

April 17, 2012

Two recent readings have me thinking: On Venkat’s blog, he talks about the individualist desire to run away In Pitch Anything, Oren Klaff discusses alpha framing and beta traps Venkat discusses the desire to run away from home and how that home is more about the psychological elements (including social relationships) than the minimal physical […]

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How to choose your college major

February 12, 2012

The Dilemma February 2007:  I have a dilemma: do I major in Philosophy or Information Systems Management?  Every day for weeks I debate this choice internally. Like any homo economicus, I make a list of Pros and Cons for each: Information Systems Management Pros: Obvious career path I’m good at it (3.8 GPA for the major) […]

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Cliffnotes to Success in Life, 2012 Edition

February 6, 2012

“How to succeed in life” is a complex question, full of nuances and assumptions.  But who has time for nuances?  Here, instead, is the cliff notes version: Success is about what you do.  Every action you take, every day, causes other things. There is no Prince coming to save you.  He is busy slaying dragons. […]

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